Long distance relationships in the digital era. To go the distance or not?
18 Oct 2018 LIFESTYLE
By: Natasha Archary
To go the distance or not to? That is the question. With technology this advanced, is a long-distance relationship in the 21stcentury a practical take on love conquering the divide between time and space?
Over 14 million people are said to be in a long-distance relationship in America alone. Being stationed in a different country or city for work, studying abroad, taking a gap year or looking to start over in a new time-zone is not an entirely new concept.
More couples find themselves exploring the option of a long-distance relationship today because the digital era, it seems is bridging the gap.
What exactly is a long-distance relationship anyway? Perhaps, the most inclusive description would be a relationship between two people who are not able to see each other as often as they’d like because distance is a factor. It wouldn’t be fair to only associate a long-distance relationship based on a city to city, country to country or province to province divide.
Although that was certainly the definition a few years ago, rapid increases in living expenses may not make it possible for two people to see each other all that often. You could still be in a long-distance relationship while you’re living in the same city.
Traditional dating itself l is tough terrain. You’ve got to be committed to making it work. One minute you’re texting fast and furiously, the next you’re being blue ticked and go days without speaking. The key to any relationship is consistency really. Using online platforms to stay in touch is, however, one of the easiest ways for couples to keep the contact going.
Data costs and high telephone bills may be a factor for some. This may make communicating difficult. But it’s a lot easier to go the distance today than a few years ago.
Keep the costs in mind
Long distance relationships do not come cheap. Flights, accommodation, road-trips to spend some quality time with the better half are additional expenses a “traditional” relationship does not come with.
Planning these rendezvous is an additional stressor. It’s a lot of admin to pin down a weekend you’re both available. And pre-planning romance isn’t exactly the formula we’re accustomed to is it?
Long-distance relationships mean fewer opportunities for physical contact. Unless, of course, you’ve both taken vows to remain celibate until you can be together forever (we’re hopeless romantics and will continue to believe in people) the lack of intimacy may put a damper on things.
You can’t just rock up at their office coffee in hand. There are no random hugs or kisses on the nose. How long are you willing to go apart?
Perhaps if Adam and Eve ate the snake instead of taking a bite out of the forbidden fruit, we’d be firm believers in people being capable of avoiding temptation. You’re apart more than you’re together. It’s a common issue in relationships in general but something about the distance makes being tempted seem empowering.
How would your long distant love ever find out? The odds are in your favour aren’t they?
Fear of commitment
Most couples in long-distance relationships don’t see it not working. They’re in it because there’s a possibility, however slight, that this could work. Whether one or both parties puts in the work, there is always the dark cloud of commitment looming.
Will it end in a commitment? Could it be the end of your relationship?
Statistics on long-distance relationships don’t look too promising. More than 75% of long-distance relationships end by month four. But let’s not forget that there are some married couples in long-distance relationships. Many of these marriages began from a long-distance relationship. There may be hope yet.
When it comes to dating in the digital era, toss out the dated rulebook and take a gamble. You never know what may or may not bring you one step closer.