What happened to my other parent?
If you know me well, you would know that I love children. Perhaps that is why I have four of my own. That is also probably why there are always other children other than my own at my home from time to time. I love seeing them grow into feisty confident people. That really brings a smile to my heart.
As a result, people who have no time for their children really hurt me, they really put a heavy lump in my throat. What would make you “forget” that you bore a child? That you gave birth to someone and are now no longer interested in their upbringing, their growth. What would make you turn your back on your own flesh and blood?
I tried to research reasons why anyone would literally stop caring for their children, nothing I came across is a good enough reason.
- Some attribute it to not wanting to have a child with that particular person.
- Another person says: There people who have endured physically and emotionally abusive relationships as children
- Others say the person might want to punish their partner for whatever reason
Whatever the reason, I personally believe that once you consent to having unprotected intercourse with someone, you must understand that there is always that possibility that a child might be born of that union or act. All the other reasons fall away. We cannot continue to make excuses for adults, especially parents with a choice. I know that some people may say my view is one-sided and harsh, but why must children continue to suffer because adults are more often than not outright selfish?
As a parent, how do you sleep at night when you don’t know that what your child has eaten, what they are wearing, how they got to school or even worse; whether they miss you as a mother or dad?
If you are not maintaining them, who do you think is doing it for you?
One might ask why I decided to write about this, well I guess it is because I see a lot of children who are going into the festive season with an absent parent. The questions they ask about why their mother or father is not with them. The look in their little wondering eye, the sad look on their face.
Relationships by their very nature are complex. I’m not by any means advocating that people who no longer want to be together must stay a couple for the sake of the children. What I’m pleading for is never to forget that your kids need you, that phone call, that walk in the park, spending the day with you, looking into your eyes and falling asleep on your chest. Is that too much to ask?
It is not always about money. Sometimes it’s just about being there.
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