My spirit , my heritage
The beating of the drums, the connection to the spirit that is what I am about.
As a young person, I was raised to love and fear God. That God was my salvation and whatever happens to me, I must always turn to him. I was raised in a very religious family, the kind who was in church every Sunday. I mean to this day, I treasure the Sunday ritual; I still take my kids to church. I baptised my children in the church.
I was that young person who was involved in the church structures; I am still very much involved in the church. One might ask why I’m going on about my beliefs and my involvement in the church.
Until recently I realised that I had neglected other parts of my spirituality, in fact, it was far from my entire family. By spiritually I mean that my family and I were recently thrust into accepting that there is more to us and where we come from.
My cousin recently answered to her ancestral calling, from what I understand no one in my family had ever answered to such a calling. It was foreign to us, so foreign it was that we really did not know how to react.
So she went and stayed with a family, in Pretoria for six months, in that six months, she was taken through the paces. What was interesting to me was that every day she went to work and went back to Pretoria to do what she needed to do.
It was no longer that, one had to go and stay at a place for the duration of the process. I say this because I remember when I was growing up, a friend’s mother, trained a ma sangoma, and they would live at her house and would leave everything.
You see I realised as a young black woman, so many times we ignore who we really are because society doesn’t approve, or we don’t know any better. We shun and look down on tradition and perhaps what we feel does not fall in line with our Christian beliefs.
The reason I’m sharing my thoughts is that since my cousin’s calling, I look at spirituality and heritage differently; my perception on ancestors and our relationships with them has changed.
I have made an effort to understand and give my children a holistic perspective on life so their experiences are richer. This experience has also brought me closer to myself, it has left me at peace with, where I am and especially where those who have departed are, and what role they play in my life.
My hope is that I never block any calling because of fear and ignorance. I know that the God I pray to will always show me the way and that my guardian angels will always keep their watch over me and my family.
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