Dating in the Digital Age: Part One – To sext or not to sext, that is the question
Interacting with a potential suitor is a tricky business. Since technology came to the party, it’s become near impossible. Although the internet, smartphones and high quality cameras have certainly streamlined the process, dating in the digital age is full of hazy faux pas and potentially disastrous pitfalls. If you’re one of the many that are finding the scene baffling, look no further than our four-part breakdown of the more common technological instigators of dating confusion.
Let’s face it, the world of dating has changed as we know it, and it’s never going back to what it was. Long gone are the days of genuine acts of chivalry, true courtship and getting to know your partner over a few months of weekly dates. Now, we’re all about cross-checking mutual friends, Facebook stalking and straining not to mention their family members by name on the first meeting. In the first installment, we’re tackling sexting.
Sexting – what is it good for?
Exchanging messages or images of a sexual nature with someone? That’s sexting. A lot of folks think it’s closer to having phone sex, but really, it can be anything you send that’s a little cheeky, insinuates the intention to hook up, or shows the bits your costume covers.
- The good side
If you’re in a relationship, sexting can really spice things up. Even if you don’t end up doing what you’ve discussed, it charges imaginations and creates suspense.
If you’re sexting early on, while you’re getting to know each other, well, it doesn’t hurt to know that you’re sexually compatible. Sexuality is different for everyone – some are tame and others a little more adventurous. If you’re the latter, sexting is a good way to size up whether you and your potential bae are into the same thing.
For the folks that are just up to have a good time without the commitment, sexting can be a good way of getting to the point of the pairing pretty quickly.
- The bad side
Photos. Photographs of you in the hands of someone who you may stop trusting at some stage. Sending nude selfies to someone you’re just getting to know may increase the danger element, but not necessarily in the sexy way you’re anticipating. Words and images are forever these days, and can be a little … inconveniently timed. Heaven forbid a picture or suggestive message pops up on your phone when you’re showing Aunt Liza how to Google on your phone.
Our pro-tip: Be sure about the person you’re engaging with, and promise before starting to both delete the pictures if anything goes awry. If you’re gonna do it with a new partner, be safe. Keep your face, or any easily identifiable features (such as tattoos or distinctive birthmarks) out of the frame. It’s no one’s fault but yours if your suggestively positioned bod ends up on the internet. You’ve been warned!
Now that you’re a little wiser to the world of sexting, keep your eyes open for the next instalment of Dating in the Digital Age: The Social Media Minefield.
Also read: How to Protect You and Your Child Online